Spring Break at Hogle Zoo 3-28-2014

So my son is off for spring break.
We grabbed his cousins and Ran off to the Zoo...
What makes them smile, makes us smile....

Teasing

So my other half (my son's father) likes to tease him. Calls him Patunia and other such things.  For which I constantly tell him "Your his father not his BULLY.'
Well lately he keeps doing the 'I see London, I see France, I see someone's underpants'. And calling my sons underwear girl underwear...
So I had just gone out and bought my son pants, shirts, socks & underwear. At the same time I bought a package of underwear for myself. They were all in the same bag and my other hald was handing my son things to put away in his room. He pulled out my underwear, not realizing it was  mine, and handed it to my son and said "Go put away your girly underwear."
My son "They're Mommies!"
"My other half said "Well how am I supposed to know? They were in with your stuff."

"I'm not the one who wears girls underwear. YOU ARE! You're the one one who's always going up their butt crack!" My son blurted out...
I started laughing. I kept telling my other half that if he kept teasing him he was going to get even someday. Sure enough, he had and didn't even know it till I started laughing.
I simply said 'You better keep your underwear out of your ass crack. He makes it out like your wearing a woman's thong!" To which I started laughing again.

Halloween 2013

This year, for what ever reason, I decided to do more than some cobwebs and a carved pumping and door decoration. I did it spending time with my  boy.... We had stuffed and were putting a dead body in the yard when the Jehovah Witnesses for up. The entire time they were trying to go through their spiel, my  son was showing off the body parts with blood that were involved. Yes.. it was all I could do not to laugh.... but I tried to remain respectful. It is after all their religion and I feel just because you feel differently you should have respect enough for someone else. But as it was... as soon as they left I lost it....

"I don't want to get teased..."

The most heart wrenching words you can hear from a child. "I don't want to get teased."

My son, now only 5 years old, needs glasses. It was the most horrible fear since his birth that he'd get that gene from me, my mother....
The fear became a reality over the last year that his sight was no longer good. I noticed at the zoo he was always saying he couldn't see. He didn't like his TV in his room because it was too small to see. I'd point at his shoes across the room and he wouldn't see them till he was closer. I even remember getting mad like he was deliberately not paying attention.... 
Truth be, he REALLY couldn't see.
When I had my fear confirmed yesterday I looked at the lady and said "You're going to help me find a pair that looks good on him! He will not be teased." Well we took over an hour trying on pair after pair after pair. We made everyone give their opinion on them. Patrons and Employees a like. No one was excluded. NO ONE! I, not the woman Tara helping us, let anyone off the hook. It was actually unanimous too. We all like the same pair.
In the end my son asked about sun glasses... I told him if he takes care of these I would get him some, but he still didn't want to wear them... I bought transitional lenses. They will turn to sunglasses out side. 
I said to him "Now you will have cool Spy Glasses. When you go outside, nobody will be able to tell where you're looking." This finally had him excited.

Now he can't wait to get them.
I'm terrified that he will get it from some bully. I told him I will take care of anyone that teases you. And I will! I pity the first one that says anything wrong... I will rake them over the coals and make them feel so small they'll be afraid to show their face in public. Man, Woman or child.... 

I remember what it felt like. I remember all the other kids with glasses that were tormented to the point I hid the fact that I needed glasses for years! I needed glasses when I was eight. I got my first pair when I bought them myself about when I was 18-19 years old.... I took enough torture when I was a kid and refused to add one more... Thanks god at some point I said enough was enough on letting others belittle me for a necessary thing. But I wore contacts till my eyes could no longer bear them before resorting to my glasses... 
I remember well the cruelness of others. I will protect my child from it as best I can.. or at least put a sharp and crisp end to it. 

He's is such an adorable child. So loving and giving.... 

St Patricks Day Child